The Trouble With Hating You by Sajni Patel Review | Too Much Hating, Not Enough Loving

49624654. sx318 sy475 The Trouble With Hating You
Author: Sajni Patel
Release Date: May 12, 2020
Publisher: Forever
Get it Here: Amazon | Barnes & Noble | Book Depository


A laugh-out-loud romantic comedy debut about first impressions, second chances, and finding the love of your life in the most unexpected way.

Liya Thakkar is a successful biochemical engineer, takeout enthusiast, and happily single woman. The moment she realizes her parents’ latest dinner party is a setup with the man they want her to marry, she’s out the back door in a flash. Imagine her surprise when the same guy shows up at her office a week later — the new lawyer hired to save her struggling company. What’s not surprising: he’s not too thrilled to see her either after that humiliating fiasco.

Jay Shah looks good on paper…and off. Especially if you like that whole gorgeous, charming lawyer-in-a-good-suit thing. He’s also arrogant and infuriating. As their witty office banter turns into late night chats, Liya starts to think he might be the one man who truly accepts her. But falling for each other means exposing their painful pasts. Will Liya keep running, or will she finally give love a real chance?


Check out my review on GoodReads over here!

I’ve been enjoying a lot of romcoms lately, but none so far really stuck out to me despite their tantalizing blurbs. Unfortunately, THE TROUBLE WITH HATING YOU is another miss, as I found myself disliking the book more and more until the very anticlimactic ending that wrapped the story up with a tidy bow, through randomly slapped-on dialogue. This story follows Liya’s love story with Jay, a lawyer that she sees at both her work (where her company is about to close) and the Indian community that their families are in. There are descriptions of yummy dishes, gossiping aunties and uncles, as well as going against the status quo of a community like the one Liya and Jay are in.


  • Liya and her friends have a wonderful, supportive dynamic that I really enjoyed. It was so cute to see them support one another with their milestones in life. Wish there were more scenes with just girls, because that’s when I felt the most love in this book.
  • The book is really family-focused, especially on Jay’s side of the family. I enjoyed seeing the interactions with his loving family and how supportive they were.


  • I think it’s okay to have a sarcastic and snarky heroine who has a lot of walls as defenses, but I truly think Liya crossed the line multiple times in this story. And at some points, she was just. Plain. Mean. And cruel with her words and dialogue. It was like the author wanted to make her strong, but passed the “strong” mark and into “rude” territory. Liya likes to be in control of her situation, and she’s a very domineering woman. But that doesn’t give her an excuse to ALWAYS jump to conclusions and put her own words into everything. When she was talking to her girl friends, she pretty much berated someone who was getting an arranged marriage instead of saying congratulations because SHE was against that concept. That was the first thing that didn’t sit well with me. The next was treating the male lead, Jay, like absolute crap in the first 60% of the book. If I were Jay, I would have walked out. I have no clue why he kept chasing after her, except for his inner thoughts that were like “ooh she so feisty.” NO. She said a lot of hurtful things, and jumped to a lot of conclusions without apologizing AT. ALL. And everyone, including Jay and his family, let it all go. I genuinely think her dialogue was hurtful, and every time she sneered, spat, or yelled at him, I was getting ready to drop the book.

    “He ran a feather-light touch down my jaw. Did he expect me to quiver with need? Manipulate me into agreeing to his terms?

    Liya Thakkar was not that weak.

    I pressed against him, our eyes still locked. Gripping his jacket, I raised myself onto my tiptoes and whispered, “If you want to screw me, just say so.”

    His jaw hardened into a clench so tight, his teeth might’ve broken. “Why would you say that?”

    I had him figured out, and the truth definitely hurt, but what other reason was there? “Because you’re a man.“”

    Honestly, Liya kind of stepped into the realm of misandry multiple times in the book. She was kind to ONE male character in the first half of the book, not including Jay. And while her experiences with men have not been all great, it doesn’t give her a right to treat almost all of them like crap. Her behavior was immature, rude, and downright unprofessional in the workplace. Her past experience with men leads me to my next dislike.

  • THE TROUBLE WITH HATING YOU delves into sensitive topics, such as the death of a family member (and the guilt that comes with it) as well as sexual assault (and silencing of the victim). I think there was a lot of potential to explore either of them, but I don’t think it was executed well, and that is tied to the rushed ending. Although there were hints, there is no on-page justice done to the perpetrator given the role he had in the community. Liya’s situation in being forced to talk about the subject didn’t sit well with me, and there wasn’t a follow-up on her well-being after that ordeal. Instead, she focuses on Jay and what he thought of her and how he didn’t stand up for her (another poor assumption). We never see her go through a stage of healing and acceptance. And THAT for an ending made me regret picking up the book. (Also the picture perfect bow-tie to Jay and Liya’s relationship that ends up with him making all the sacrifices rather than it being a two-way street). There were so many avenues to explore with Liya’s past (such as talking to a therapist or her girl friends) to help her heal, and we never see it. I feel like despite everything, Liya never grew in this story except to open her heart to a romance with Jay. But other than going into a relationship, her beliefs are never challenged and she remains as obstinate and conclusion-jumping as ever.
  • At this point, my frustration with Liya made Jay a moot point. His character was there to open Liya into a relationship and other than him being a caring and supportive partner, offered nothing to the plot. His own experience over guilt of a family member’s death also had a poor resolution (or, lack of??) that I breezed through.Overall, I was excited for THE TROUBLE WITH HATING YOU, hoping for a progressive hate-to-love romance. Instead, I get an incredibly mean heroine with a cardboard hero, and sensitive issues that aren’t written with the care they should have been. I don’t think I would recommend this book, unless you are okay with a heroine that literally yells at and demeans her prospective partner for the majority of the book.


Thank you Forever and Netgalley for the review copy!

8 thoughts on “The Trouble With Hating You by Sajni Patel Review | Too Much Hating, Not Enough Loving

  1. Oh no! 😦 I’m so disappointed to hear this! I was so looking forward to this one because it has a hate-to-love romance and desi characters! I think I would be easily frustrated with Liya’s character too. She sounds really cruel and I’m not here for that. 😦

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